How is my relationship with God?

"If your relationship with God was a marriage, how would you describe things to a marriage counselor?  What would a better, happier marriage look like?"
These questions were recently presented to me at the end of a chapter in a book I've just begun reading.

Not necessarily in the exact same words, but this is something I've been considering myself for the last few weeks.  If I view my relationship with God as a marriage, what can I do to strengthen our marriage?  I've heard it said concerning a husband and wife that pure love does for the other person what you know will make them happy without any expectation of them returning the favor.  In other words, if I purely love my (future) wife, then I would let's say, clean the kitchen and make dinner for her when she arrives home from work, not because I expect her to rub my back when she gets home but because I love her and want to do anything I can to make her happy.  

With that idea of love within the context of a relationship between a husband and wife, I sat down and made a list of things I thought would make God happy.  What could I do for Him that would make Him happy and further express my love for Him?  And how could I do these things without expecting anything in return from Him?
My list was rather childish and embarrassing to be quite honest.  I wrote things like "pray or talk to God, read my bible, go to church, serve others, love others", etc.Those are all good things but I feel like they're cookie cutter answers.  I don't look at that list and see or feel love in the ink.

Recently I've been drawing comparisons between current and old romantic relationships and my relationship with God.  In past relationships I've sought knowledge as the first and most important factor in determining the immediate longevity of the relationship.  First and second dates would usually be spent talking for hours and trying to find out as much about the other person as possible.  What were their past relationships like, who were they with, how long did they last.  How was their childhood, were they close with their family?  What are their dreams in life, what do they want to do, and what are they doing?  I took this approach with every woman I ever dated.  As I grow older I'd like to think I am becoming more aware of how to mature and grow in relationships in a healthier way.

I've been with Sammi for a couple of months now.  She is wonderful to be around and to be with.  One of the many things I so enjoy about Sammi is that her and I never had these conversations where we unloaded our past on each other.  I would like to say that I did this intentionally but it wouldn't be true, it just sort of happened this way.  Is it important to know about someone's past if you're in a relationship with them?  I think the answer is yes.  But when should you learn these things?  Time will tell, time will bring these conversations to fruition.  It's been wonderful because I am getting to know Sammi for who she is today and she is getting to know me for who I am today and not who we used to be.  Experience tells me that when you learn too much of a person's past, too soon you make unfair and biased judgements based on that information and what you think you understand about the person.

What I've been wondering lately is how these practices I've made in relationships with women have worked their way into my relationship with God.  Do I know God for who He is or do I know Him based on the information I think I have on Him?

I hear others talk about Him and to Him, I hear others' thoughts on the bible and I listen to their theology and then I make unfair judgements about Him without genuinely getting to know Him.  If I sat down and made a list of what I know about God and what I know about His character and personality and then took that list and created my references for this knowledge, I wonder how it would stack up to the reality of who He really is.
What do I know about God based on my life experiences with Him and not what others have told me about Him?  Would He be the same?  Would I be the same person?  I have a feeling that He will turn into something completely different than I originally thought and I also feel that I will be a different person as well.